Just in time for the Holidays, we are publishing our article on Love Notes. Consider adding one of these to a Romantic Gift Basket and your lover will thank you in all kinds of fun ways.
If you've never written a love letter, it's about time you did. It's the easiest, most inexpensive way to tell your honey you love him or her. Think about the payoff -- for the cost of a card and postage, you'll get love, kisses... and possibly a little lovin!!
Step One: Selecting It
A love note can be drafted on anything made from paper. Be creative! Or try some of these tried-and-true ideas:
Valentine's Day Card: This one is a no-brainer. Go to the card store and pick out a card that will delight your honey. Does she love kittens? Is he gaga for goofiness? HallmarkTM and a dozen other companies have the perfect card for every taste.
Blank Art Card: Select an image that will appeal to him or her and spend a few minutes writing something sweet. The artistic exterior will appeal to his or her whimsy and the blank interior will give you the opportunity to be creative.
Stationery: Use a piece of pretty paper or two as the canvas for your words! Having an unlimited amount of room can help you free your creativity, letting you ramble on for pages with words of love. Trust us -- your sweetie won't mind a five-page love letter!
Construction Paper: Use a piece of heavy construction paper to create your own card. Cut out hearts and other shapes and trim an artistic edge.
Drawing Paper: Use crayons, markers or colored pencils to draw a picture for your sweetie, something he or she will treasure forever for its "inner child" value.
Now that you've picked your medium, the next step is writing your letter.
Step Two: Writing It
As in most artistic endeavors, the medium often shapes the message. The type of card or letter you selected in Step One will determine which of the following notes you'll send:
Short Note: Best for a simple card, a short note doesn't need to merely read, "love, me." Even if you only have room for a few sentences, make the most of it. Think about what your sweetie would most like to hear...a declaration of love? A reminder that he or she is the only one for you? A marriage proposal? A little effort will get you a long way!
Long Note: If you have room to write a few paragraphs, you can really pluck your lover's heartstrings with some well-thought-out words. We recommend drafting a few copies before settling on just the right combination of endearments. Tell your honey what you love most about him or her, your favorite thing he or she does, the depth of your love, plans for the future...you have room for it all!
Letter: If you really want to bare your heart, write your partner a long love letter. Sit down in a quiet spot with a pen, some paper and some romantic music. Don't worry about how to start, what to write, or how to finish -- just let your creativity start flowing and write whatever comes to you. Your partner will appreciate hearing your deepest thoughts!
Drawing: Stumped for what to say? Draw a picture! It doesn't have to be art and it doesn't have to be perfect. Grab some crayons and draw a big heart, a bunch of flowers, or a tidy little house with puffy clouds and a tree. Finish off the picture by writing a few simple words of love...and don't forget to sign it with XOXOXOXOXO!
Once your love note is written, it's time to move on to the next step: sending your love letter.
Step Three: Sending It
You might think that sending a love letter is as easy as dropping it in the mailbox or leaving it on the kitchen table, but a little effort can help your love letter really "say" something! Try these creative tips:
Romantic Stamp: If you're sending a love letter to a long-distance lover, make the stamp as romantic as the card. Select a pretty Valentine's Day-themed stamp at the Post Office and turn it upside down! An inverted stamp has long been "postal code" for "I love you."
Secret Message: Instead of leaving your billet-doux on the kitchen table, slip it in your lover's lunch, briefcase or purse, where he or she will find it sometime during the day. Imagine your sweetie's delight when he or she sees the special surprise you left!
Turn-down Service: Like fancy hotels, where you receive a mint when the maid turns down your bed for the night, your love note can inspire sweet dreams. When your sweetie is in the shower or doing last-minute before-bed chores, place your love letter and a single rose on his or her pillow. Your lover will flip for this romantic gesture!
Simple Sincerity: If you're feeling traditional, try this approach: sit your lover down, look him or her in the eye, and tell your honey you've written something special for him or her. Then hand your lover the note you've written and ready yourself for a big kiss!
Now that you know how to create the perfect love letter, get out there and get writing! Even if you don't have the time, money or energy to make a larger gesture of love, a sweet little note will let your sweetheart know how much you love him or her. What's not to love about this simple plan?
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Friday, December 23, 2005
Thursday, May 19, 2005
Giving Him Oral Pleasure: How to Do and Enjoy It
Fellatio, giving head, and going down on a guy all mean the same thing. Learning how to be an oral sex expert takes time and practice, as you'll need to find your personal comfort zone.
First, decide that you are willing to become an able participant. Liking this act is critical to performing your tasks with pizzazz. Even the slightest revulsion will be transmitted directly to his waiting member, and can kill the loveliness of the event.
Next, make sure that your man is fresh, clean and appealing before you get down to business. Varying your tongue and mouth positions, styles and techniques will help you find the perfect touch for his, and hopefully your, enjoyment. Oral sex is a skilled activity and an art form. The key is to like what you are doing, feel comfortable and confident, and make this a journey of pleasure for both of you. Using flavored lubricants such as cinnamon "Hot Stuff," whipped cream or chocolate syrup can add fun and zest to your experience. Licking the shaft as well as the head (corona) of the penis, along with using your hands on the (lubricated) skin around his manhood, will enhance the experience as well.
Great that you are willing to jump out of the old mold and join the ranks of the sexually courageous. Yes, it does take courage and some sound ideas for breaking your own patterns to become skilled at something you have never done before. But with some new input and a little guidance from your lover, you will reach your new sexual goal easily.
There are two tricks about giving oral pleasure to a man:
You have to feel confident and skilled at what you do, and
You will find it most successful when you, the giver, find pleasure in your actions.
For some women the concept of actually enjoying giving oral sex to a man is strange, but once you allow your mind to eroticize giving pleasure as a way to sexually stimulate yourself, you will never want to stop. Okay, maybe it is a bit too enthusiastic, but it's true that most women who do not enjoy fellatio (oral sex on a man) have not tuned in to their own pleasure receptors and, therefore, miss the feelings of arousal that so often emerge during this sexual connection.
Before you start with your lover, you can also practice.
Using a penis-shaped sex toy (yes, a banana will work too), you can gain self-confidence and test some tricks and strategies using a variety of strokes and pressures.
After a few secret sessions alone, you will feel more at ease doing it for real on your husband.
Lastly, be sure to ask the expert who goes to sleep right next to you at night (your husband, of course) to find out what exactly he likes so that you can truly enjoy turning him - and you - on.
Foreplay for Men
Often a man is stimulated sexually by what he sees -- men tend to respond to visuals, while women tend to respond more to what they hear and feel. That said, some men do need to be touched or cajoled into action more directly. The first and basic rule is to ask. Ask him what he likes, needs and wants as a turn-on. Try doing this at a quiet, intimate time (but not necessarily in the bedroom). For example, you might initiate a discussion over coffee about what each of you finds to be a turn-on. If your man needs to be touched, then any form of gentle, careful and caring caressing of his genitals, and even his nipples, should do the trick. You can do this with your hands, of course, but you can also use your mouth or even your breasts. Believe me, it will work.
First, decide that you are willing to become an able participant. Liking this act is critical to performing your tasks with pizzazz. Even the slightest revulsion will be transmitted directly to his waiting member, and can kill the loveliness of the event.
Next, make sure that your man is fresh, clean and appealing before you get down to business. Varying your tongue and mouth positions, styles and techniques will help you find the perfect touch for his, and hopefully your, enjoyment. Oral sex is a skilled activity and an art form. The key is to like what you are doing, feel comfortable and confident, and make this a journey of pleasure for both of you. Using flavored lubricants such as cinnamon "Hot Stuff," whipped cream or chocolate syrup can add fun and zest to your experience. Licking the shaft as well as the head (corona) of the penis, along with using your hands on the (lubricated) skin around his manhood, will enhance the experience as well.
Great that you are willing to jump out of the old mold and join the ranks of the sexually courageous. Yes, it does take courage and some sound ideas for breaking your own patterns to become skilled at something you have never done before. But with some new input and a little guidance from your lover, you will reach your new sexual goal easily.
There are two tricks about giving oral pleasure to a man:
You have to feel confident and skilled at what you do, and
You will find it most successful when you, the giver, find pleasure in your actions.
For some women the concept of actually enjoying giving oral sex to a man is strange, but once you allow your mind to eroticize giving pleasure as a way to sexually stimulate yourself, you will never want to stop. Okay, maybe it is a bit too enthusiastic, but it's true that most women who do not enjoy fellatio (oral sex on a man) have not tuned in to their own pleasure receptors and, therefore, miss the feelings of arousal that so often emerge during this sexual connection.
Before you start with your lover, you can also practice.
Using a penis-shaped sex toy (yes, a banana will work too), you can gain self-confidence and test some tricks and strategies using a variety of strokes and pressures.
After a few secret sessions alone, you will feel more at ease doing it for real on your husband.
Lastly, be sure to ask the expert who goes to sleep right next to you at night (your husband, of course) to find out what exactly he likes so that you can truly enjoy turning him - and you - on.
Foreplay for Men
Often a man is stimulated sexually by what he sees -- men tend to respond to visuals, while women tend to respond more to what they hear and feel. That said, some men do need to be touched or cajoled into action more directly. The first and basic rule is to ask. Ask him what he likes, needs and wants as a turn-on. Try doing this at a quiet, intimate time (but not necessarily in the bedroom). For example, you might initiate a discussion over coffee about what each of you finds to be a turn-on. If your man needs to be touched, then any form of gentle, careful and caring caressing of his genitals, and even his nipples, should do the trick. You can do this with your hands, of course, but you can also use your mouth or even your breasts. Believe me, it will work.
Monday, May 16, 2005
New study on female sexuality reveals increased use of sexual aids by women
The use of sexual aids and devices is often a sensitive and embarrassing topic for women, but a new landmark study on sexual aid usage conducted by the Berman Center and funded by an unrestricted educational grant may help change women's acceptance of sexual aids and their ability to talk more openly about use of sexual aids with their spouses, partners, and friends.
The research was unveiled in Chicago on September 11, 2004 at the second annual Women's Sexual Health State-of-the-Art Series conference in conjunction with the Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine. This Continuing Medical Education program is one of the largest-ever gatherings of physicians on the topic of women's sexual health.
The study is entitled The Health Benefits of Sexual Aids & Devices: A Comprehensive Study of their Relationship to Satisfaction and Quality of Life and is one of the first to explore women's use of sexual devices and bring the topic of sexual device use "out of the closet" and into the realm of normal behavior. Knowledge Networks conducted the study by mail with a random national sample of 2,594 women, in the age range of 18 to 60, from March 5 to April 5, 2004.
The purpose of the research was threefold:
* to produce an academic study in an underreported and emerging area of interest in women's sexuality,
* to determine the instance of use of sexual aids and devices,
* to identify women's attitudes toward such aids and devices and their role in overall health and well-being.
Among the more remarkable findings from the study is the prevalence of sexual device usage. One in five women uses self-stimulation at least once a week, which would equate to more than 17.5 million women nationwide. Of the women that use self-stimulation, nearly 60 percent currently use a sexual device to do so. The research indicates that, in all, 44 percent of women between the ages of 18 and 60 have used a sexual device.
Based on the study results, the author suggests a connection between the use of sexual aids and devices with overall quality of life. Women who use sexual devices report experiencing higher levels of sexual function and satisfaction with their partners than non-users. This includes higher levels of sexual desire and arousal as well as less pain during and after intercourse. Sexual device users also find it easier to reach orgasm when compared to non-users, who tend to have moderate success. With these findings, we can safely suggest that all of these characteristics were significantly correlated with higher levels of quality of life in the respondents.
In addition, the study also reveals that women overwhelmingly believe that using a sensual enhancement product is nothing to be embarrassed about. In fact, nine out of 10 study participants report being comfortable talking to their partners about their sexual device use. Most women view sexual devices as a complement to their sexual relationships and not a substitute for their partner.
Despite a popular misconception, it is women who are in relationships -- not singles -- who are most likely to use a sexual aid. Of the study participants, 78 percent of women who use or have used a sexual device were in a relationship. Of the women who were most likely to use a self stimulation device, 43 percent were living with their partners, but not married; and 35 percent were in a relationship, but not living together.
"The research findings only confirm what we have been telling couples for years," said renowned sex therapist and educator Dr. Laura Berman, who is also director of the Berman Center in Chicago. "Using sexual aids and devices is a normal and healthy part of life, but it is clear that we still have a long way to go. Many women don't know what's right for them, where to find sexual aids, or how to use them. In my practice, I educate women about sexual aids and prescribe devices tailored to their individual needs."
The study findings indicate that approximately 75 percent of women purchase sexual aids and devices at specialty stores, although an increasing number of women are opting for the privacy and safety offered by Web-based stores.
The study found that top reasons women purchase sensual products online were:
* Anonymity - 80 percent (of respondents)
* Convenience - 75 percent Less
* Embarrassing - 71 percent
* Ability to Take One's Time - 64 percent Larger
* Selection - 42 percent
More and more women and couples today are choosing to shop online because of the convenience, selection, and most importantly, privacy. Over 70 percent of our customers are women, and sales in our store are up 34 percent year-after-year. This trend, combined with the important findings in this latest research, suggests we are only in the infancy of a new sexual awakening for women.
Products of Interest:
Rabbit Pearl Vibrator
Rabbit Pearl Vibrator
Friday, April 29, 2005
Celebrating Great Moms
Mom,
You've seen me grow through the years. All the sleepless nights just to wipe a tear from my innocent face. All the love and care you put into every warm bottle or hot meal I ever ate. We shared in our moment of tears together, when I cut myself for the first time to when I rode my bike and took a nasty spill... there was always a caring, kind face that could always make things better. That was Mom.
When I became ill, you were the one that would sit by my side until I could tackle the world once more. When I gave something my all and wanted to quit who was there with words of encouragement. Mom was.
You believed in me. You made me realize what can be done if you set your mind to it. How great of a person I am...just like my Mom.
As we get older we tend to forget what our Mom had done for us. So before you get on the bus or in a car, tell you mom how great you think you are. Because of your Mom.
When I became ill, you were the one that would sit by my side until I could tackle the world once more. When I gave something my all and wanted to quit who was there with words of encouragement. Mom was.
You believed in me. You made me realize what can be done if you set your mind to it. How great of a person I am...just like my Mom.
As we get older we tend to forget what our Mom had done for us. So before you get on the bus or in a car, tell you mom how great you think you are. Because of your Mom.
You've seen me grow through the years. All the sleepless nights just to wipe a tear from my innocent face. All the love and care you put into every warm bottle or hot meal I ever ate. We shared in our moment of tears together, when I cut myself for the first time to when I rode my bike and took a nasty spill... there was always a caring, kind face that could always make things better. That was Mom.
When I became ill, you were the one that would sit by my side until I could tackle the world once more. When I gave something my all and wanted to quit who was there with words of encouragement. Mom was.
You believed in me. You made me realize what can be done if you set your mind to it. How great of a person I am...just like my Mom.
As we get older we tend to forget what our Mom had done for us. So before you get on the bus or in a car, tell you mom how great you think you are. Because of your Mom.
When I became ill, you were the one that would sit by my side until I could tackle the world once more. When I gave something my all and wanted to quit who was there with words of encouragement. Mom was.
You believed in me. You made me realize what can be done if you set your mind to it. How great of a person I am...just like my Mom.
As we get older we tend to forget what our Mom had done for us. So before you get on the bus or in a car, tell you mom how great you think you are. Because of your Mom.
Sunday, April 24, 2005
Six Types of Sex Women Enjoy
This article was intended for men, however I believe the ladies can use this article to figure out what they are looking for and let their guy know!!
How can you keep the dreaded bedroom boredom from setting in with your current lover? You must never let the sex become routine. It's easier than you think; you just have to add different styles of lovemaking to your repertoire, and a lover who's willing to go the distance.
So what are these different styles and when are they appropriate? From romantic to animalistic, read on and find out how to keep the flame burning for good.
Type 1 - Seductive Sex
Chances are that your first few sexual encounters with your woman will revolve around seduction. In other words, you're going to do your damndest to charm her right into your bed.
Look deep into her eyes and "sensualize" conversations in order to seduce her mind and get the sexual energy between you flowing.
Once you have her eating out of the palm of your hand, take her in your arms and kiss her. Lead her into the bedroom and slowly undress her. Lay her down and make love to her while keeping eye contact. Maintain a constant, steady pace and refrain from using too many sound effects. After all, you're the strong, silent type tonight.
This type of set-up is also good for when you've been together for a while and want to feel like the stud that you are, and want to remind her of that too.
Type 2 - Romantic Sex
This type of sex is good for when you're both relaxed and not pressed for time, such as during a weekend getaway. It's time to enjoy the fact that neither of you has anything to do but enjoy each other's bodies.
Here's your chance to give her what she wants: a romantic setting and seemingly endless foreplay. Light candles, put on some sexy music (it's subjective), open up a bottle of Merlot, and caress all of her erogenous zones, including her thighs, butt, back, neck, soles of her feet, and breasts.
The ensuing sex should be slow and rhythmic, and allow both parties to enjoy every sensation to its fullest. Basically, it should feel like it's going in slow motion.
Don't forget, she also wants to get wild with you...
Type 3 - Animalistic Sex
Other times, you are just so hot for each other that prolonging foreplay just seems like agony, like when you're at a club and get incredbily turned on, but have to wait until you get home. Once you unlock that front door, it's time for animalistic sex.
Grab her and kiss her hard, and rip each other's clothes off, it doesn't even matter if some of them stay on. Go ahead and do it doggy style on the living room floor, or prop her up on the kitchen counter if you so desire. Do it fast and hard. Grab her hair by the roots, yell if you feel like it; just be sure to check your inhibitions at the door.
Type 4 - Passionate Sex
Perhaps you were away on business and haven't seen her for a week, or maybe you had a huge fight and need to make up; the point is you're burning with desire for each other and you want to devour each other.
The resulting sex should be intense and deeply felt. Hold on to her body and make love to her like she's all the woman you could ever want or need.
Type 5 - Quickie Sex
This one's great if you're pressed for time, stressed out, or in an unusual location that you really shouldn't be having sex in, such as in your office, or on a somewhat secluded beach.
This one's quick and to the point; you want an orgasm and you want it now.
Type 6 - Kinky Sex
If you and your woman have been together for a while and trust each other, and are looking to spice things up, it may just be time to get kinky.
Get out the scarves and tie her hands behind her head or to the bedpost, and make her your slave. Or blindfold her and keep her guessing what you'll do next. Get your hands on some edible body paints and make her body your canvas. Tease her with a feather. Or shock her system with ice cubes or candle wax. Spank her.
You can also get her to wear some sexy lingerie and do a little strip tease for you. She can be your naughty school girl, cowgirl, French maid; whatever turns you on.
As long as you and your woman have compatible sex drives and a sense of adventure when it comes to your sexual escapades, you should be able to lead a mutually fulfilling sex life and prevent the flame from dying. Just remember to switch it up and spice it up.
Products of Interest:
Kama Sutra Massage Oil
Kama Sutra Bedside Box
Kama Sutra Game
Kama Sutra Gift Tin
Kama Sutra Honey Dust
Kama Sutra Lover's Paint Box
Kama Sutra Massage Cream
Kama Sutra Pleasure Balm
Kama Sutra Treasures of the Sea
Kama Sutra Weekender Kit
Kama Sutra Treasure Trove
Kama Sutra Oil of Love
Kama Sutra Lubricants
Kama Sutra Love Essentials
Other Articles of Interest:
How to Take a Sensual Bath
How to Give a Sensual Massage
Refresh your Relationship
Keep Your Romance Alive
How can you keep the dreaded bedroom boredom from setting in with your current lover? You must never let the sex become routine. It's easier than you think; you just have to add different styles of lovemaking to your repertoire, and a lover who's willing to go the distance.
So what are these different styles and when are they appropriate? From romantic to animalistic, read on and find out how to keep the flame burning for good.
Type 1 - Seductive Sex
Chances are that your first few sexual encounters with your woman will revolve around seduction. In other words, you're going to do your damndest to charm her right into your bed.
Look deep into her eyes and "sensualize" conversations in order to seduce her mind and get the sexual energy between you flowing.
Once you have her eating out of the palm of your hand, take her in your arms and kiss her. Lead her into the bedroom and slowly undress her. Lay her down and make love to her while keeping eye contact. Maintain a constant, steady pace and refrain from using too many sound effects. After all, you're the strong, silent type tonight.
This type of set-up is also good for when you've been together for a while and want to feel like the stud that you are, and want to remind her of that too.
Type 2 - Romantic Sex
This type of sex is good for when you're both relaxed and not pressed for time, such as during a weekend getaway. It's time to enjoy the fact that neither of you has anything to do but enjoy each other's bodies.
Here's your chance to give her what she wants: a romantic setting and seemingly endless foreplay. Light candles, put on some sexy music (it's subjective), open up a bottle of Merlot, and caress all of her erogenous zones, including her thighs, butt, back, neck, soles of her feet, and breasts.
The ensuing sex should be slow and rhythmic, and allow both parties to enjoy every sensation to its fullest. Basically, it should feel like it's going in slow motion.
Don't forget, she also wants to get wild with you...
Type 3 - Animalistic Sex
Other times, you are just so hot for each other that prolonging foreplay just seems like agony, like when you're at a club and get incredbily turned on, but have to wait until you get home. Once you unlock that front door, it's time for animalistic sex.
Grab her and kiss her hard, and rip each other's clothes off, it doesn't even matter if some of them stay on. Go ahead and do it doggy style on the living room floor, or prop her up on the kitchen counter if you so desire. Do it fast and hard. Grab her hair by the roots, yell if you feel like it; just be sure to check your inhibitions at the door.
Type 4 - Passionate Sex
Perhaps you were away on business and haven't seen her for a week, or maybe you had a huge fight and need to make up; the point is you're burning with desire for each other and you want to devour each other.
The resulting sex should be intense and deeply felt. Hold on to her body and make love to her like she's all the woman you could ever want or need.
Type 5 - Quickie Sex
This one's great if you're pressed for time, stressed out, or in an unusual location that you really shouldn't be having sex in, such as in your office, or on a somewhat secluded beach.
This one's quick and to the point; you want an orgasm and you want it now.
Type 6 - Kinky Sex
If you and your woman have been together for a while and trust each other, and are looking to spice things up, it may just be time to get kinky.
Get out the scarves and tie her hands behind her head or to the bedpost, and make her your slave. Or blindfold her and keep her guessing what you'll do next. Get your hands on some edible body paints and make her body your canvas. Tease her with a feather. Or shock her system with ice cubes or candle wax. Spank her.
You can also get her to wear some sexy lingerie and do a little strip tease for you. She can be your naughty school girl, cowgirl, French maid; whatever turns you on.
As long as you and your woman have compatible sex drives and a sense of adventure when it comes to your sexual escapades, you should be able to lead a mutually fulfilling sex life and prevent the flame from dying. Just remember to switch it up and spice it up.
Products of Interest:
Kama Sutra Massage Oil
Kama Sutra Bedside Box
Kama Sutra Game
Kama Sutra Gift Tin
Kama Sutra Honey Dust
Kama Sutra Lover's Paint Box
Kama Sutra Massage Cream
Kama Sutra Pleasure Balm
Kama Sutra Treasures of the Sea
Kama Sutra Weekender Kit
Kama Sutra Treasure Trove
Kama Sutra Oil of Love
Kama Sutra Lubricants
Kama Sutra Love Essentials
Other Articles of Interest:
How to Take a Sensual Bath
How to Give a Sensual Massage
Refresh your Relationship
Keep Your Romance Alive
Tuesday, April 19, 2005
How to Use Lubricants with Sex Toys
Lubricant -- How Do I Use It with Sex Toys?
Have you ever grabbed your favorite toy, settled in for an erotic good time and thought, "Is it okay to use my lube with this?" Or maybe you're purchasing your first toy and aren't sure why or how to lubricate it. At Romance365, we think about this stuff all the time -- because part of our job is to provide you as much information as possible.
Always Use LubeThe first thing to keep in mind is that every sex toy and sensual aid could use a little lubrication. Whether you're rubbing against it, putting it into you, or putting you into it, you should be using a lubricant.
Lubricants make sex toys not only feel better, but also more safe to use. Think about what happens when you're having sex: the body creates natural lubrication so you and your partner don't hurt each other with too much friction. The same logic applies to using toys, either with a partner or during solo play. Really, there's no such thing as too much lubrication. Even if you lubricate naturally, a dab of extra lubricant on your toy is a highly recommended addition. It's better to be safe and slippery than sorry and sore!
Pick the Right Lube
Lubricants come in three basic formulations: water-based lube, which is the most common and most versatile, silicone-based lube, which is similar to water-based lube but waterproof, and petroleum-based lube, which is great for anal play. We only carry Kama Sutra Lubricant because they offer four different types. We have described them on the Kama Sutra Lubricant Page.
Water-Based Lubricants
Water-based lubes, may be used on virtually any vibrator or toy. An exception may be toys for anal play, as you may want a lubricant that also contains a desensitizer -- this is purely preference, of course.
The greatest advantage of water-based lube is the easy cleanup: You simply rinse off the toy with warm water, and voila! The lube is gone! However, this "no muss, no fuss" quotient also has a down side -- if you like to use waterproof toys (during a bath, in a hot tub, what have you), a water-based lubricant will rinse right off -- which really defeats the whole purpose of using lube!
You definitely want to use a water-based lube with anything made of silicone. A silicone lube used on a silicone toy will destroy the toy. Silicone is essentially made up of tiny glass beads; when these beads rub together, they will merely scratch one another other, wreaking havoc on the silicone toy. So stick with a water-based lube for your premium silicone toys, and use silicone lube for the purpose for which it was intended!
Silicone-Based Lubricants
Silicone lubes are the perfect choice for sensual fun in the water. If you love your waterproof toys (or just love having sex in the water), you and a silicone lubricant, will be lifetime companions! Of course, a silicone-based lube is not as readily available at your corner drugstore as a water-based lube, but fortunately, you can get plenty here at Romance365.
Another "pro" for silicone lubricant is that it lasts longer and can be easily revived after a lengthy encounter with your favorite vibrating friend, just by adding a little water or saliva to it. Silicone lubes never really get absorbed or evaporate the way a water-based lube may. On the other hand, this also means that getting your toys (and yourself) clean will take a little more effort, but it certainly doesn't need to be sandblasted off. A good soapy wash should do the trick.
Petroleum-Based Lubricants
Petroleum-based lube should really only be used with non-latex anal toys or for male masturbation. These lubes are great for anal play because they're generally thicker than other types of lubricant, making entry easier. A good one to try is Anal Eze as it's petroleum-based and also contains a desensitizer.
Do not use a petroleum-based lube with anything made of latex -– toys, condoms, or other products -– as the petroleum will destroy the latex on contact. Petroleum also tends to irritate a woman's vagina, so we don't recommended this type of lubricant for intercourse or for use with any sort of vibrator or dildo intended for vaginal penetration.
Using Lube
Now that you've taken a closer look at lube, you're probably wondering about the best way to apply it. Again, this is really personal preference, but here are our tips for the easiest and least-messy way.
Simply pour a small amount -- about the size of a dime -- onto your fingers and then spread it on your toy and yourself.
Rub your fingers over the head and down the shaft if it's a vibrator or dildo. Be sure to lube any other clitoral or anal stimulators on your toy, as well.
Rub the lubricant onto your sex toy so that it's slick, but not dripping. Be careful -- you don't want to rub so much that the lubricant is absorbed in your hand, leaving the toy high and dry!
If you are male and using a masturbation sleeve, you'll want to apply lube to your fingers and then slide them around the entrance and down the inside of the sleeve. Since most sleeves have a small hole in the other end, you probably don't want to just pour the lube into it -- you can always add more if you need to.
If you or your toy become dry during use, simply add more lube.
How Much is Enough?
You also don't want to "over apply" or "over rub" the lubricant, particularly on a toy. The amount of lube you use is a personal preference. The general rule of thumb is that if it doesn't slide in comfortably, you probably need more lubricant! Some people like their toys as lubricated as possible, while others enjoy only enough lubrication to reduce friction to a point of comfort. We recommend that if you're experimenting with a toy or lubricant for the first time, try starting with an amount about the size of a dime and keep adding lube until you're happy. You'll figure out how much you like soon enough!
On the Body
Much like massage oils, if you're lubing yourself or a lover's body part, do not pour the lube directly from the bottle onto bare skin! Pour the lubricant into the palm of your hand and warm it to body temperature before applying it to warm skin. This rule also applies using lubricant on your toys. After all, you wouldn't want to get a chill because you applied a cold lubricant to your favorite dildo!
Sharing Toys
If you're sharing a toy with your partner, just lube everything! Well, actually, be sure to lubricate the penis it will be on, any stimulating pieces on the ring (bullet, animal-shaped head, what have you) and the person receiving the action. Of course, you don't need to lubricate the entire person, just the receiving sexual organ!
Now grab your erotic assistant of choice and be secure in the knowledge that you're using the perfect lubricant for you and your toy!
Products of Interest:
Kama Sutra Massage Oil
Kama Sutra Bedside Box
Kama Sutra Game
Kama Sutra Gift Tin
Kama Sutra Honey Dust
Kama Sutra Lover's Paint Box
Kama Sutra Massage Cream
Kama Sutra Pleasure Balm
Kama Sutra Treasures of the Sea
Kama Sutra Weekender Kit
Kama Sutra Treasure Trove
Kama Sutra Oil of Love
Kama Sutra Lubricants
Kama Sutra Love Essentials
Other Articles of Interest:
How to Take a Sensual Bath
How to Give a Sensual Massage
Refresh your Relationship
Keep Your Romance Alive
Friday, April 15, 2005
How to Strip for Your Lover
Have you ever watched Striptease and thought, "Why the hell am I watching this movie?" And then, perhaps, "I've always wanted to spin around a pole like that." Would you be surprised to know you're not alone?
The truth is, most women I've talked to have, at one time or another, fantasized about being a stripper. Many have even tried out some moves on their lovers. Sound like fun? It is! A striptease is a great way to show your partner how sexy you think you are, and believe me, he or she will agree.
Step 1: Preparation I'm not going to tell you that a spontaneous strip will not make jaws drop. I think we can all agree that anything that involves you removing your own clothes in front of your sweetie will be applauded. However, if you really want to treat your "customer" to something special, plan an actual striptease show.
Before the music even begins, well, you must pick it. Obviously, keep your and your partner's tastes in mind, but know that it's not quite going to have the same effect if you're seductively removing clothing to, say, something by Hanson or Stryper. Try to choose something that's got a slow-ish tempo so you can take your time and really tease. Just make sure it's not too slow as the song may end and you'll only have a couple of pieces off. Practically anything from the "9 1/2 Weeks" soundtrack is great -- a cliché, maybe, but it works.
Next, you have to plan what you're going to wear. Now there may be some shopping involved here, but you won't have to spend much money. In fact, don't -- there's a good chance that once you're down to your undergarments, they will be ripped right off your body! Start from your bottom layer and work your way out. Your final "outfit" is the showstopper -- this is a strip TEASE, remember -- so get something you KNOW will drive your honey mad. It can be a tiny bra and g-string combo, maybe a corset -- whatever makes you feel sexy and desirable.
Once that's accomplished, you can pretty much pick whatever's in your closet for the outer layer. A good, "naughty" choice is always the Lolita-esque, schoolgirl look, but you may choose anything really. You could go the button-down business route -- a tie would later make a great prop (think looping behind his or her head to pull it into your breasts; things along those lines).
The sky's the limit!
Finally, accessories. This includes everything you might need for a theme (glasses, hats, ties, etc.) as well as the all-important thigh highs (or garter belt and stockings) and stiletto heels. A word of caution here: make sure you can actually move around and dance in these shoes. While I realize that stilettos don't generally come in heights under three inches, some are easier to maneuver in than others. If you don't happen to have any in your closet, ask a friend.
Other accessories that are fun to include are long necklaces (they look amazing when you're down to the essentials -- trust me), long gloves and feather boas.
Step 2: Practice You're not auditioning for the next Star Search so I don't mean that you need to choreograph a huge number. Simply listen to the music you've chosen a few times and move to it. It doesn't have to be spins and splits, just movement. Once you're comfortable with that, do a dry run with your costume on to figure out when and what you'll be removing. Again, this is a tease, so make it slow, make it sexy. This will also give you an opportunity to rethink your costume if anything is too difficult to unbutton or unhook -- you don't want your come-hither dance to turn into a Chevy Chase pratfall.
Step 3: Showtime! Do not be nervous. This is fun. If it causes you any undue embarrassment or discomfort, then you shouldn't be doing it. I understand there will be some butterflies -- it's perfectly natural, but realize that if you feel seductive and desirable, so will your audience. Plus, you're performing for your lover who (hopefully) already finds you seductive and desirable!
If you can, dim the lights a bit. Barring that, turn out the lights, but light lots of candles. Strut your beautiful self out there and start your music.
If you really want to drive him or her to distraction, climb up on a coffee table or anything that puts you up a little higher. (Please, please, if you do this, make sure your stage is sturdy ahead of time. I think we can all imagine how quickly a trip to the ER would kill the mood.) Merely sway suggestively for a bit without actually removing anything. Do remember to turn from time to time, especially if your sweetheart is particularly enamored with your backside. Do a little booty shaking. If your hair is up, let it down and softly whip it back and forth. Check the look on your lover's face. Has the mouth slackened a bit? Then it's time to move on to the good stuff.
Start with something innocuous -- a glove is great. Very slowly push the glove down your arm, then with your teeth, suggestively pull at the cloth on each finger. Once your glove is loose enough to pull off, do so, but again, slowly. Then throw it at your lover. Please don't wing it at him or her; it sort of ruins the mood. At any rate, you may then move on to whatever you choose with two exceptions: your thigh highs (or garter and stockings) and your shoes. These should stay on until you're down to your dainties. I must ask you to trust me again.
No matter what you're removing, the key is to do it as slowly as possible. Tease. Unbutton your blouse and only let your shoulder or a part of your back show before your shirt makes it all the way off. Flash your partner, then quickly close your blouse. Spin around to give him or her several tantalizing angles. Then do the same with your skirt; simply lift it to expose a thigh, then quickly flip it up in back for a peek-a-boo shot of your butt. Make your partner wait. And always toss the removed garment at your captivated audience.
When you are finally free of the confines of your outfit, continue to move and dance seductively. This is when the long necklace comes in quite handy. Not only will it sway beautifully, but it will also draw attention to your breasts, which is a good thing. Now this may sound ridiculous, but honestly, your lover may not know what to focus on and you will then laugh from his or her eyeballs jittering out of their sockets.
You are now down to your underpinnings, shoes and stockings. Let your lover enjoy this for a few moments before you tantalizingly, excruciatingly, slowly roll each stocking down your leg (obviously, if you're going the garter belt route, you'll want to undo those first). Try propping your leg on something that's close by your sweetie, like the arm of the sofa or chair, while you're doing this. Once you get to your ankle, slide your shoe off long enough to get the stocking off, then put your shoes back on and continue dancing.
Now that your sweetie is a quivering mass of jelly, climb down from the stage or slowly make your way over to him or her, and tease for a few more moments before surprising them with an impromptu lap dance. Or, if you'd rather, merely strut into the bedroom. It may take them a moment to register, but I can guarantee they will be in shortly!
Believe me, once you've done a striptease for your favorite playmate, you'll want to do more. And I can guarantee he or she will want you to, as well. The main point to remember is this is a fun exercise that will titillate both of you. Plus, it'll be something you can talk about for years to come and even plan new shows together. So go buy some hot undies and get stripping!
Thursday, April 14, 2005
How to Buy a Romantic Wedding Gift
Wish the lucky pair well with a heartfelt and romantic gift. Whether you need a gift for the bridal shower, bachelorette party or the wedding itself, we have some beautiful items that will please the bride and groom.
We specialize in romantic gifts for all occasions and a wedding is no exception. If you want to stay on the traditional side, take a look at our engraved crystal gifts. Each item is personalized with the bride and grooms name and date/year of the wedding. What a wonderful way to remember their special day. We have a wide variety of fonts and graphics to choose from.
Now if you want to be a bit more romantic, think about our Kama Sutra Line. We have a beautiful kama sutra gift tin that is perfect for the newly weds!! We also have smaller kama sutra treasure trove tins and our very popular kama sutra bedside box!!
Our Ultimate Romance Basket is a big hit for any wedding or bridal shower. It is filled to the brim with everything the couple needs! Have it gift-wrapped, and include an enclosure card with your address to simplify the couple's thank-you writing.
Address the gifts to the bride before the wedding, and to both the bride and groom afterward. Send your gift instead of bringing it to the wedding; this is much easier for the wedding party. Most stores will mail it for you, especially if you order it online or by telephone. We offer shipping and we will gift wrap!
If you prefer to give money instead of a gift, present it on the day of the ceremony. Make a check payable to both the bride and groom.
Tips: As a rule of thumb, refrain from buying a print by your favorite artist or an antique cake platter you love unless you are absolutely positive the couple will also love it.
Consider purchasing a large gift or basket with a group of friends.
Wednesday, April 13, 2005
The Art of Kissing
The fine sexual art of kissing can be one of the most pleasurable experiences you will share with your partner, whether you are lovers or just like each other a lot. It's also one of the first truly sexual experiences that most people encounter as they are growing up.
Of course there's different types of kissing, but for the purpose of this site, I'll be talking about the type of kissing that carries sexual undertones. This means the pecks you give your mother don't count as far as this article is concerned.
If you've never kissed anyone sexually, you might want to go ahead and read this article because this information just might come in handy some day. If you have, great, but maybe you'll learn something new that will be sure to spice up your romantic encounters. Kissing is a natural act, but many people are unable to just sit back and relax and cause their partners to see stars with their excellent kissing skills. Some people will be great at kissing, and others may never be more than average no matter how much they learn about the art. This doesn't really matter though, as long as you can learn to feel confident and be sure that your partner feels great about sharing this experience with you. There are several key points you can learn that will help you accomplish this:
The first key to becoming a better kisser is to think about how you feel during the whole kissing experience. This may seem selfish, but kissing is a highly reciprocal act. This means that if you feel like the kiss sucks, then the person you are kissing probably does too. Focus on making the other person feel good by relaxing. This includes your whole body, your head and neck, and especially your lips. Loosen up a bit and try to let things just flow. Once you get to know your partner better, you'll start learning their perks and this includes how to sweep them off their feet when you kiss them. If you don't, you won't have to worry for long because they'll be gone and you'll have to start over with someone new.
The second important key is the flow of events during a kissing experience. You don't want to just attack someone like a sandwich with your mouth wide open, your tongue hanging out, ripping wet with anticipation. If you do, the whole act will be awkward for you and your partner and afterwards you'll have a hard time proving yourself worthy of your partner's lips during future encounters.
Approach the whole situation just as you would a strange explosive device that you are about to attempt to disarm. Move in slow, with great care and gentle caution. Initial contact should be lips only, firm yet gentle. After a few cycles of lip kisses with maintained contact, you may want to open your mouth slowly and move in with your tongue (more on this a little later). This stage will probably vary greatly depending on the point in your relationship with this person.
A first kiss probably isn't going to be nearly as heart-felt and as passionate as one with someone you've kissed often, but you'll know where you are and how to handle the intensity. React to how your partner is kissing. If they speed up, speed up with them. If they slow down, do the same. Try to synchronize your actions with each other but be sure to pay attention so you don't ruin the whole experience. Eventually you'll learn to match and complement your partner's kissing rhythms so that the pleasure and good feelings you get from the kisses are as desirable as possible.
There is much more to a kiss than just lips and tongues. To experience the full pleasure of the act you have to be resourceful!
Don't forget to use your hands, your nose, and even your breath to elevate your passionate kissing ventures to a new level. A woman loves to be touched while she's being kissed. Use your hands to gently caress her cheek, her back, the tops of her arms, and especially her collarbone and jawbone right before and during the kiss. Rubbing noses is also extremely pleasurable, and can cause some sexual giggles between the two of you. Giggles are always a sure sign that you're making them feel special. Using your breath is also important.
Providing your partner with extremely light, warm feelings on their face, neck, and mouth can be an extremely arousing feeling. I remember the feeling from exchanging breath with my partner through our noses. This was very erotic and I know it helped to get both of our sexual juices flowing a bit more rapidly. This sensual foreplay can really enhance a kiss and make your partner feel great.
Wait, you say, I haven't said anything about the actual kiss yet! All I can give in this area is some really general advice, you'll have to learn what is right for you and your partner on your own. Relax your face and lips, take things slow, and open your mouth enough for some explosive tongue interaction, but not too much. Don't stick it out either, you want to do that while your lips are locked. Angle your head slightly, you don't want anything awkward to happen when your heads approach. Once you are actually French kissing your partner, feel free to explore with your tongue. You may want to try using gentle breaths to some effect, but however you do it, just remember to breathe! Feeling the wet, warm feeling of someone else's tongue pressed and interacting with your own is definitely something you'll not soon forget, and through practice and experience you'll come up with your own little pleasurable ways of kissing your lover.
Besides just mouth to mouth action, you'll probably want to try kissing other areas of your partner's body at some point in the relationship, depending where you are right now. Gentle kissing or nibbling of the earlobes can be extremely sensual for either gender. Just as women love to be touched and caressed, you may also find your partner loves to be kissed in the same sensitive areas as mentioned earlier. The most affectionate and most sensual type of kiss I remember giving a past lover was one on her forehead. I took my hand and placed it softly on the back of her head, slowly drew her toward me, and gave her a single, slow kiss on her forehead. Every time I did this her reactions always showed me that she knew how much I cared for her, and for us this was one extremely intimate act that meant a lot to both of us.
Through all of the technical details of sexual kissing, just remember that most important aspect is letting your partner know how much you care for them and making them feel good. If you falter at first, with time and experience you'll get better. Feel free to experiment, learn what they like and how they like to be kissed by varying your methods. Once you reach the point of being able to communicate on a completely non-verbal and spiritual level while you kiss your partner, you'll know you've been doing something right.
Of course there's different types of kissing, but for the purpose of this site, I'll be talking about the type of kissing that carries sexual undertones. This means the pecks you give your mother don't count as far as this article is concerned.
If you've never kissed anyone sexually, you might want to go ahead and read this article because this information just might come in handy some day. If you have, great, but maybe you'll learn something new that will be sure to spice up your romantic encounters. Kissing is a natural act, but many people are unable to just sit back and relax and cause their partners to see stars with their excellent kissing skills. Some people will be great at kissing, and others may never be more than average no matter how much they learn about the art. This doesn't really matter though, as long as you can learn to feel confident and be sure that your partner feels great about sharing this experience with you. There are several key points you can learn that will help you accomplish this:
The first key to becoming a better kisser is to think about how you feel during the whole kissing experience. This may seem selfish, but kissing is a highly reciprocal act. This means that if you feel like the kiss sucks, then the person you are kissing probably does too. Focus on making the other person feel good by relaxing. This includes your whole body, your head and neck, and especially your lips. Loosen up a bit and try to let things just flow. Once you get to know your partner better, you'll start learning their perks and this includes how to sweep them off their feet when you kiss them. If you don't, you won't have to worry for long because they'll be gone and you'll have to start over with someone new.
The second important key is the flow of events during a kissing experience. You don't want to just attack someone like a sandwich with your mouth wide open, your tongue hanging out, ripping wet with anticipation. If you do, the whole act will be awkward for you and your partner and afterwards you'll have a hard time proving yourself worthy of your partner's lips during future encounters.
Approach the whole situation just as you would a strange explosive device that you are about to attempt to disarm. Move in slow, with great care and gentle caution. Initial contact should be lips only, firm yet gentle. After a few cycles of lip kisses with maintained contact, you may want to open your mouth slowly and move in with your tongue (more on this a little later). This stage will probably vary greatly depending on the point in your relationship with this person.
A first kiss probably isn't going to be nearly as heart-felt and as passionate as one with someone you've kissed often, but you'll know where you are and how to handle the intensity. React to how your partner is kissing. If they speed up, speed up with them. If they slow down, do the same. Try to synchronize your actions with each other but be sure to pay attention so you don't ruin the whole experience. Eventually you'll learn to match and complement your partner's kissing rhythms so that the pleasure and good feelings you get from the kisses are as desirable as possible.
There is much more to a kiss than just lips and tongues. To experience the full pleasure of the act you have to be resourceful!
Don't forget to use your hands, your nose, and even your breath to elevate your passionate kissing ventures to a new level. A woman loves to be touched while she's being kissed. Use your hands to gently caress her cheek, her back, the tops of her arms, and especially her collarbone and jawbone right before and during the kiss. Rubbing noses is also extremely pleasurable, and can cause some sexual giggles between the two of you. Giggles are always a sure sign that you're making them feel special. Using your breath is also important.
Providing your partner with extremely light, warm feelings on their face, neck, and mouth can be an extremely arousing feeling. I remember the feeling from exchanging breath with my partner through our noses. This was very erotic and I know it helped to get both of our sexual juices flowing a bit more rapidly. This sensual foreplay can really enhance a kiss and make your partner feel great.
Wait, you say, I haven't said anything about the actual kiss yet! All I can give in this area is some really general advice, you'll have to learn what is right for you and your partner on your own. Relax your face and lips, take things slow, and open your mouth enough for some explosive tongue interaction, but not too much. Don't stick it out either, you want to do that while your lips are locked. Angle your head slightly, you don't want anything awkward to happen when your heads approach. Once you are actually French kissing your partner, feel free to explore with your tongue. You may want to try using gentle breaths to some effect, but however you do it, just remember to breathe! Feeling the wet, warm feeling of someone else's tongue pressed and interacting with your own is definitely something you'll not soon forget, and through practice and experience you'll come up with your own little pleasurable ways of kissing your lover.
Besides just mouth to mouth action, you'll probably want to try kissing other areas of your partner's body at some point in the relationship, depending where you are right now. Gentle kissing or nibbling of the earlobes can be extremely sensual for either gender. Just as women love to be touched and caressed, you may also find your partner loves to be kissed in the same sensitive areas as mentioned earlier. The most affectionate and most sensual type of kiss I remember giving a past lover was one on her forehead. I took my hand and placed it softly on the back of her head, slowly drew her toward me, and gave her a single, slow kiss on her forehead. Every time I did this her reactions always showed me that she knew how much I cared for her, and for us this was one extremely intimate act that meant a lot to both of us.
Through all of the technical details of sexual kissing, just remember that most important aspect is letting your partner know how much you care for them and making them feel good. If you falter at first, with time and experience you'll get better. Feel free to experiment, learn what they like and how they like to be kissed by varying your methods. Once you reach the point of being able to communicate on a completely non-verbal and spiritual level while you kiss your partner, you'll know you've been doing something right.
Monday, April 11, 2005
It's all about Romance
Hello Readers,
We are going to start offering you articles on anything and everything romantic. If you have a suggestion, please feel free to post. We will try to put up new articles daily.
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We are going to start offering you articles on anything and everything romantic. If you have a suggestion, please feel free to post. We will try to put up new articles daily.
Read our first posting:
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