Giving Him Oral Pleasure: How to Do and Enjoy It

Fellatio, giving head, and going down on a guy all mean the same thing. Learning how to be an oral sex expert takes time and practice, as you'll need to find your personal comfort zone.

First, decide that you are willing to become an able participant. Liking this act is critical to performing your tasks with pizzazz. Even the slightest revulsion will be transmitted directly to his waiting member, and can kill the loveliness of the event.

Next, make sure that your man is fresh, clean and appealing before you get down to business. Varying your tongue and mouth positions, styles and techniques will help you find the perfect touch for his, and hopefully your, enjoyment. Oral sex is a skilled activity and an art form. The key is to like what you are doing, feel comfortable and confident, and make this a journey of pleasure for both of you. Using flavored lubricants such as cinnamon "Hot Stuff," whipped cream or chocolate syrup can add fun and zest to your experience. Licking the shaft as well as the head (corona) of the penis, along with using your hands on the (lubricated) skin around his manhood, will enhance the experience as well.

Great that you are willing to jump out of the old mold and join the ranks of the sexually courageous. Yes, it does take courage and some sound ideas for breaking your own patterns to become skilled at something you have never done before. But with some new input and a little guidance from your lover, you will reach your new sexual goal easily.

There are two tricks about giving oral pleasure to a man:

You have to feel confident and skilled at what you do, and

You will find it most successful when you, the giver, find pleasure in your actions.

For some women the concept of actually enjoying giving oral sex to a man is strange, but once you allow your mind to eroticize giving pleasure as a way to sexually stimulate yourself, you will never want to stop. Okay, maybe it is a bit too enthusiastic, but it's true that most women who do not enjoy fellatio (oral sex on a man) have not tuned in to their own pleasure receptors and, therefore, miss the feelings of arousal that so often emerge during this sexual connection.

Before you start with your lover, you can also practice.
Using a penis-shaped sex toy (yes, a banana will work too), you can gain self-confidence and test some tricks and strategies using a variety of strokes and pressures.

After a few secret sessions alone, you will feel more at ease doing it for real on your husband.

Lastly, be sure to ask the expert who goes to sleep right next to you at night (your husband, of course) to find out what exactly he likes so that you can truly enjoy turning him - and you - on.

Foreplay for Men

Often a man is stimulated sexually by what he sees -- men tend to respond to visuals, while women tend to respond more to what they hear and feel. That said, some men do need to be touched or cajoled into action more directly. The first and basic rule is to ask. Ask him what he likes, needs and wants as a turn-on. Try doing this at a quiet, intimate time (but not necessarily in the bedroom). For example, you might initiate a discussion over coffee about what each of you finds to be a turn-on. If your man needs to be touched, then any form of gentle, careful and caring caressing of his genitals, and even his nipples, should do the trick. You can do this with your hands, of course, but you can also use your mouth or even your breasts. Believe me, it will work.