Fellatio, giving head, and going down on a guy all mean the same thing. Learning how to be an oral sex expert takes time and practice, as you'll need to find your personal comfort zone.
First, decide that you are willing to become an able participant. Liking this act is critical to performing your tasks with pizzazz. Even the slightest revulsion will be transmitted directly to his waiting member, and can kill the loveliness of the event.
Next, make sure that your man is fresh, clean and appealing before you get down to business. Varying your tongue and mouth positions, styles and techniques will help you find the perfect touch for his, and hopefully your, enjoyment. Oral sex is a skilled activity and an art form. The key is to like what you are doing, feel comfortable and confident, and make this a journey of pleasure for both of you. Using flavored lubricants such as cinnamon "Hot Stuff," whipped cream or chocolate syrup can add fun and zest to your experience. Licking the shaft as well as the head (corona) of the penis, along with using your hands on the (lubricated) skin around his manhood, will enhance the experience as well.
Great that you are willing to jump out of the old mold and join the ranks of the sexually courageous. Yes, it does take courage and some sound ideas for breaking your own patterns to become skilled at something you have never done before. But with some new input and a little guidance from your lover, you will reach your new sexual goal easily.
There are two tricks about giving oral pleasure to a man:
You have to feel confident and skilled at what you do, and
You will find it most successful when you, the giver, find pleasure in your actions.
For some women the concept of actually enjoying giving oral sex to a man is strange, but once you allow your mind to eroticize giving pleasure as a way to sexually stimulate yourself, you will never want to stop. Okay, maybe it is a bit too enthusiastic, but it's true that most women who do not enjoy fellatio (oral sex on a man) have not tuned in to their own pleasure receptors and, therefore, miss the feelings of arousal that so often emerge during this sexual connection.
Before you start with your lover, you can also practice.
Using a penis-shaped sex toy (yes, a banana will work too), you can gain self-confidence and test some tricks and strategies using a variety of strokes and pressures.
After a few secret sessions alone, you will feel more at ease doing it for real on your husband.
Lastly, be sure to ask the expert who goes to sleep right next to you at night (your husband, of course) to find out what exactly he likes so that you can truly enjoy turning him - and you - on.
Foreplay for Men
Often a man is stimulated sexually by what he sees -- men tend to respond to visuals, while women tend to respond more to what they hear and feel. That said, some men do need to be touched or cajoled into action more directly. The first and basic rule is to ask. Ask him what he likes, needs and wants as a turn-on. Try doing this at a quiet, intimate time (but not necessarily in the bedroom). For example, you might initiate a discussion over coffee about what each of you finds to be a turn-on. If your man needs to be touched, then any form of gentle, careful and caring caressing of his genitals, and even his nipples, should do the trick. You can do this with your hands, of course, but you can also use your mouth or even your breasts. Believe me, it will work.
Thursday, May 19, 2005
Monday, May 16, 2005
New study on female sexuality reveals increased use of sexual aids by women
The use of sexual aids and devices is often a sensitive and embarrassing topic for women, but a new landmark study on sexual aid usage conducted by the Berman Center and funded by an unrestricted educational grant may help change women's acceptance of sexual aids and their ability to talk more openly about use of sexual aids with their spouses, partners, and friends.
The research was unveiled in Chicago on September 11, 2004 at the second annual Women's Sexual Health State-of-the-Art Series conference in conjunction with the Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine. This Continuing Medical Education program is one of the largest-ever gatherings of physicians on the topic of women's sexual health.
The study is entitled The Health Benefits of Sexual Aids & Devices: A Comprehensive Study of their Relationship to Satisfaction and Quality of Life and is one of the first to explore women's use of sexual devices and bring the topic of sexual device use "out of the closet" and into the realm of normal behavior. Knowledge Networks conducted the study by mail with a random national sample of 2,594 women, in the age range of 18 to 60, from March 5 to April 5, 2004.
The purpose of the research was threefold:
* to produce an academic study in an underreported and emerging area of interest in women's sexuality,
* to determine the instance of use of sexual aids and devices,
* to identify women's attitudes toward such aids and devices and their role in overall health and well-being.
Among the more remarkable findings from the study is the prevalence of sexual device usage. One in five women uses self-stimulation at least once a week, which would equate to more than 17.5 million women nationwide. Of the women that use self-stimulation, nearly 60 percent currently use a sexual device to do so. The research indicates that, in all, 44 percent of women between the ages of 18 and 60 have used a sexual device.
Based on the study results, the author suggests a connection between the use of sexual aids and devices with overall quality of life. Women who use sexual devices report experiencing higher levels of sexual function and satisfaction with their partners than non-users. This includes higher levels of sexual desire and arousal as well as less pain during and after intercourse. Sexual device users also find it easier to reach orgasm when compared to non-users, who tend to have moderate success. With these findings, we can safely suggest that all of these characteristics were significantly correlated with higher levels of quality of life in the respondents.
In addition, the study also reveals that women overwhelmingly believe that using a sensual enhancement product is nothing to be embarrassed about. In fact, nine out of 10 study participants report being comfortable talking to their partners about their sexual device use. Most women view sexual devices as a complement to their sexual relationships and not a substitute for their partner.
Despite a popular misconception, it is women who are in relationships -- not singles -- who are most likely to use a sexual aid. Of the study participants, 78 percent of women who use or have used a sexual device were in a relationship. Of the women who were most likely to use a self stimulation device, 43 percent were living with their partners, but not married; and 35 percent were in a relationship, but not living together.
"The research findings only confirm what we have been telling couples for years," said renowned sex therapist and educator Dr. Laura Berman, who is also director of the Berman Center in Chicago. "Using sexual aids and devices is a normal and healthy part of life, but it is clear that we still have a long way to go. Many women don't know what's right for them, where to find sexual aids, or how to use them. In my practice, I educate women about sexual aids and prescribe devices tailored to their individual needs."
The study findings indicate that approximately 75 percent of women purchase sexual aids and devices at specialty stores, although an increasing number of women are opting for the privacy and safety offered by Web-based stores.
The study found that top reasons women purchase sensual products online were:
* Anonymity - 80 percent (of respondents)
* Convenience - 75 percent Less
* Embarrassing - 71 percent
* Ability to Take One's Time - 64 percent Larger
* Selection - 42 percent
More and more women and couples today are choosing to shop online because of the convenience, selection, and most importantly, privacy. Over 70 percent of our customers are women, and sales in our store are up 34 percent year-after-year. This trend, combined with the important findings in this latest research, suggests we are only in the infancy of a new sexual awakening for women.
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